Sometimes when I’m triggered, it’s difficult to know who is speaking — the ego or the higher self. I’ve discovered a few ways to recognize the voices. The ego’s voice is urgent; action is needed immediately. The ego is condemning to self and others, saying things like “he should be doing something different,” “I feel marginalized,” or “she is [fill in character flaw here].” The ego needs constant assurance to validate its existence. It’s easy to get swayed by the self-righteous, justice-seeking ego. Though the ego operates from a place of fear, more often than not, what it is reeling against is not even there.
In stark contrast, the higher self’s voice is calm; there’s no urgency. She knows that there is all the time in the world. My higher self wants me to thrive. She guides me to take care of my own needs, rather than looking to others to fill them. She knows that the only reassurance I need is my own. She offers compassion and kindness to myself and others. The higher self knows nothing is black and white and understands nuance.
At this point, you might be thinking, “What’s the problem? If it’s obvious, who’s speaking, don’t listen to the ego.” But that’s the problem — the ego speaks loudly, the higher self speaks softly. You can’t even hear the higher self until you quiet the ego. The higher self is like the smart, introverted coworker. She may not speak up at first, but once prompted, you learn of her brilliance.
You need to have the consciousness and will to heed the direction of your higher self. It is like the parable of the two wolves. In this story, a grandfather explains to his grandson that there are two wolves inside him. One is vicious, angry, and jealous (the ego). The other is loving, kind, and generous (the higher self). They are in an all-out battle to the death. When the little boy asks which one wins, the grandfather explains it’s the wolf that is fed.
Courtesy: https://humanparts.medium.com/the-art-of-listening-to-your-higher-self-293719afd8fb
